Nice guys and dark sexual secrets

[linenum]

Hi I find the following quote to be interesting...

Dr Robert Glover, "No More Mr. Nice Guy"

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/9679681-i-have-found-nice-guys-to-be-prone-to-hidden

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I have found Nice Guys to be prone to hidden, compulsive sexual behavior. I have developed a theory that states, the nicer the guy, the darker the sexual secrets. I find this to be consistently true. Sex is a basic human drive. Because most Nice Guys believe they are bad for being sexual, or believe that other people will think they are bad, sexual impulses have to be kept hidden from view.

These dark secrets can include pedophilia....

Edited September 14, 2020 by linenum

[rideforever]

True and it's also true for all the virtue signalling people of this world, the NGOs, politicians and so on.

But the problem is that dealing with your animal nature, and also integrating it, with your human nature and mind ... is not so easy, and most people don't bother.

On Monday they go to work and say good things, and in the evening they are on this phone flaming people on the internet.

In the morning they are say one thing, and in the evening they do something different.

The critcize people for one thing, although that one thing is exactly what they do themselves.

 

One reason for this is that because people do not feel what's going on inside themselves ... then they make it happen outside so they can see it.  It's a projection.

So they have some repression inside, and then they marry someone repressed who sort of reminds them of what's inside their own body.

Or they have some hidden misery, so then they go into a job full of miserable people ... because then you see on their faces what you are feeling inside.

So everything is sprayed outside because you cannot feel your own self inside ... and even if you can you don't know how to fix it.

 

That is exactly what humans are ... and that's why they are so sheeple-like because they don't feel inside, they spray it all outside one unto the other.

 

Doing your damndest and expressing your inner darkness is useful, but can also go too far.

 

Also another weird feedback  loop is that if you do happen to become more honest one day ... then your friends turn against you.  Because they are not going to help you feel dark things inside.

So often people just die having made zero progress with them.

 

Edited September 14, 2020 by rideforever

[andy1033]

What a load of rubbish.

 

These people are desperate to try and normalise paedophilia.

 

Paedophilia, should always be a banned sexuality. Kids cannot consent to having sex with adults, and when will these people ever accept that, they have no right to rape anyone they want.

[rideforever]

Repression is imo the cause of cancer and mental health problems that are so popular today.

But ... tattoing that's so popular that is a way for people to toughen themselves up and say f off to the world ... but it is limited, it doesn't actually give you more power.  It's like dutch courage.

To get more power you are going to have to go in, meet your wild beasts, heal them, integrate them, and make all your parts including your raw passions ... work with your mind and intelligene.

 

[linenum]

I'm not saying all pedophiles are "nice guys". BTW I think that nice guy pedophiles don't necessarily abuse kids directly... though they might download child porn which does.

Edited September 14, 2020 by linenum

[Bombadil]

That crazy. Downloading child porn means that you’re in the market for photos, film etc of abuse  being carried out by others. Hence you are responsible just as much as the physical abuser.  There is no such thing as acceptable “ nice guy pedos” I think what your stating here is one of the few things that could unite the world in agreement, against what your saying. What you are saying is dangerous, scary  stuff. Pedophiles are also not just male.  Plus generalising that nice people must be deviants is pretty pathetic. Maybe best if Doctor Robert Glover is struck off and lobotomised.

 

[linenum]

1 hour ago, Bombadil said:

That crazy. Downloading child porn means that you’re in the market for photos, film etc of abuse  being carried out by others. Hence you are responsible just as much as the physical abuser.  There is no such thing as acceptable “ nice guy pedos"

 

I agree

 

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Plus generalising that nice people must be deviants is pretty pathetic. Maybe best if Doctor Robert Glover is struck off and lobotomised.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_More_Mr._Nice_Guy_(book)

 

"Nice guy Syndrome", a condition in men who appear to be always nice and who try to avoid conflict at all costs. ... In other words, nice guys want approval, but don't think they deserve it

 

I know many people's dark sexual secrets (including some "nice guys") - from child porn, to sexual contact with cats or dogs, to liking porn involving women sleeping or simulated rape, or using prostitutes... I was talking to a woman about the theory and she said a guy we both knew had "very dark" sexual secrets though she only gave examples of him putting a young girl's underwear in a bin and repeatedly saying that young girls were beautiful...

 

The author is a therapist that has talked to thousands of "nice guys". He also has forums that are filled with fans who I guess would agree with the book including the quote....

 

Maybe you know many exceptions or maybe you haven't explored their dark side properly.... after all a lot of those people would deny their shocking secrets....

Edited September 14, 2020 by linenum

[rideforever]

Yeah ... also given this world is completely depraved I should say that just because repression may be the cause of weird sexual tendencies, it also doesn't mean that you should not be repressed.

 

Yes you do have to repress yourself ... and even better plug yourself into a normal relationship, and then on Friday night get drunk and vomit ... that sort of works as an escape valve.

And society needs to have strong codes regarding such things.

 

Also the access to normal life including nature and meaningful work allow people to be unrepressed ... once society became anti-natural there will always be problems. ... which is one reason why society should follow the pattern of life.  Everything should.