Embarrassing problem - I've gone off sex

[unusual_suspect]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

[tracker]

for a start as you know , if you feel fat you will give off the impression of being fat .
if you feel ugly you will give off an impression of being usly .

yet as you know


if you feel like one hot mummer , your gonna act and be like one , and others will see you that way .

so the key is not getting back your sex drive .

its getting back the drive that allows you to feel good enough to want it .

your thoughts on how you feel upon your self is the key .

then everything will fall into place after that .

just for the record , its not embarrassing,

its part of natural life and these things happen , but it is easily fixed .

and just to make you smile

I can prove it ---------------come round here I will fix that .:D

just trying to make you smile unusual suspect , smiling is a good healer as we all know .

:cool:

[unusual_suspect]

for a start as you know , if you feel fat you will give off the impression of being fat .
if you feel ugly you will give off an impression of being usly .

yet as you know


if you feel like one hot mummer , your gonna act and be like one , and others will see you that way .

so the key is not getting back your sex drive .

its getting back the drive that allows you to feel good enough to want it .

your thoughts on how you feel upon your self is the key .

then everything will fall into place after that .

just for the record , its not embarrassing,

its part of natural life and these things happen , but it is easily fixed .

and just to make you smile

I can prove it ---------------come round here I will fix that .:D

just trying to make you smile unusual suspect , smiling is a good healer as we all know .

:cool:

I think I'm just tired, I either need a good marathon sleeping session, or i mught run away and join the circus.

[tracker]

I think I'm just tired, I either need a good marathon sleeping session, or i mught run away and join the circus.

your on one now ffs lol . :D

but hay , you are that person with an incinciderate boss , bad health , and a bad job .


still doing the same things ah ?

to me , rest as we descussed before is essential to recovery , and this sexless drive you have is a result of all this pressure and stress .

how far are you willing to go before you drop dead as a sex starved chick ?

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :eek: that is not the way to go now is it .:rolleyes:

unusual suspect , many of this sex problem has nothing to do with the drive it self , im sure the drive is ok , its just on hold thats all .

its what is holding it back is the key

how you feel about your self

and what is making you feel bad on top of bad health ?

shall I shout it out for you ?

:cool:

[tracker]

ITS YOUR F+++ING JOB !



:D

I AM TRYING COMUNICATE SOMETHING HERE .

:D

I am also trying to make you laugh too .:p

[unusual_suspect]

ITS YOUR F+++ING JOB !



:D

I AM TRYING COMUNICATE SOMETHING HERE .

:D

I am also trying to make you laugh too .:p

I know, I have been doing some planning about starting my own thing and I have been making some promotional material for my own enterprise this week.

I can't jack my job in right now, my other half is going through hell to get his redundancy from his last job and has another court hearing. So he is stressed enough and I can't drop a bombshell like "hey, I'm quitting my job" at the mopment, cause he hasn't actually found another one yet.

I think the running away and joining the circus option is looking more appealing by the day though, I always fancied becoming a human cannonball :D

[tracker]

I know, I have been doing some planning about starting my own thing and I have been making some promotional material for my own enterprise this week.

I can't jack my job in right now, my other half is going through hell to get his redundancy from his last job and has another court hearing. So he is stressed enough and I can't drop a bombshell like "hey, I'm quitting my job" at the mopment, cause he hasn't actually found another one yet.

I think the running away and joining the circus option is looking more appealing by the day though, I always fancied becoming a human cannonball :D

Oh I see , your man also has problems too .

DOH !

thats not good at all is it . ( no its not a question )

you are indeed in a hole there .

you both need to sit down and suss out whats really important .

love
happyness
togetherness

beats all the stressing situations anyday .

like David Icke said

if you were on your last few minutes here on earth on your death bed

all these worries , and stresses -----------would not matter one bit .
money !
bills !
all irelevent in the face of death .

I do understand why you cant just quit and do feel for you and your man in this situation . its not easy , but some seriouse time out to cuddle and relax is defo on the cards .

maybe ( no matter how old he is ) he could try a college course or something , anything to keep his mind away from redendancy pay , it will come eventually and even if it didnt , he might feel better doing something .

men usually do .

:cool:

[tracker]

Nice to hear that you are already doing something about your own little mission .

good stuff !

:cool:

[solarwindspirit]

testosterone

[tracker]

testosterone

hmmm some one has gone through a lot of trouble to take care in detail and attention here .

note how much effort and concideration they have taken .
it is ;
informative
full of detial
time taken to cover many aspects
covers wide range of ideas and problem solving tactics .

good post .:rolleyes:

[drooh]

Lack of sex drive.

Same here, though in my case I think it's a case of underexposure/lack of desire to deal with the opposite sex in tangible, physical reality and overexposure to pornography.

You've seen one set of genitals getting spliced into another set, you've seen all genitals being spliced into other sets of genitals.

Then again, porn isn't meant to be a realistic depiction of sex, so maybe it's the unrealistic depiction I've become desensitized to?

I suppose it means that since I find the prospect so boring I spend more time thinking about other stuff. :)

Get plenty of exercise and sleep too.

[unusual_suspect]

testosterone

Lack of sex drive.

I am a woman, I don't want testosterone, I hear that can be dodgy for females, I don't even take the contaceptive pill, because I'm worried about messing with my hormones.

Same here, though in my case I think it's a case of underexposure/lack of desire to deal with the opposite sex in tangible, physical reality and overexposure to pornography.

You've seen one set of genitals getting spliced into another set, you've seen all genitals being spliced into other sets of genitals.

Then again, porn isn't meant to be a realistic depiction of sex, so maybe it's the unrealistic depiction I've become desensitized to?

I suppose it means that since I find the prospect so boring I spend more time thinking about other stuff. :)

Get plenty of exercise and sleep too.

An ex of mine was really in to porn, I think it caused him problems.

I can't exercise much at all, I have a foreign body keeping a blockage open in my kidney, so I have to be really careful, they said walking was ok, I tried some wights and it really hurt :(

Have you stopped watching the porn?

[thelyran]

...that's disappointing,when we were joking around a few weeks ago,I thought you were pretty hot...be honest with you,it's the medication,which will also affect your female scent and taste...give it a few months...you'll be hanging.I seen a pic of your Beau...he looks cool and understanding...hand
and oral release for him for a while,just to keep the peace,being your partner,I suspect,he is used to generous helpings of you...just some options dear,take care...I reallly hoped you were over this blockage,but mis read you,
Love Jase:)

[drooh]

An ex of mine was really in to porn, I think it caused him problems.

I can't exercise much at all, I have a foreign body keeping a blockage open in my kidney, so I have to be really careful, they said walking was ok, I tried some wights and it really hurt :(

Have you stopped watching the porn?

People probably won't believe me, but 10 days without porn. :D

Feel better for it though some real sex would be good. Wish it was as easy as just finding someone you liked and just casually saying 'hey, fanshy some shecks?' in a Sean Connery style accent.

(And it working too...) :rolleyes:

Six days without masturbation too, though I'm starting to feel restless and edgey.

Maybe I will try tonight and rely only on my imagination for the imagery.

[fekdemasons]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o


Have you tried Pornography ?

[unusual_suspect]

Have you tried Pornography ?

No, absoultely no way, I hate the way I look as it is without watching fit young women writhing around, it would make me feel pretty crappy I think.

[darketernal]

In addition to your stress issues, there is the bio-chemical aspect of this to consider.

Being a physically active individual and then being forced to stop can have a negative effect on one's sex hormones. The other is diet. Are you consuming enough dietary cholesterol? If not, your sex drive will plumet also. Red meat has a very pronounced effect on the body's production of sex hormones, particularly testosterone, which is the primary hormonal regulator of the human sex drive in both males and females.

[unusual_suspect]

In addition to your stress issues, there is the bio-chemical aspect of this to consider.

Being a physically active individual and then being forced to stop can have a negative effect on one's sex hormones. The other is diet. Are you consuming enough dietary cholesterol? If not, your sex drive will plumet also. Red meat has a very pronounced effect on the body's production of sex hormones, particularly testosterone, which is the primary hormonal regulator of the human sex drive in both males and females.

Thanks for giving that perspective, I think you may be on to something, I was active before my operation, and I have been feeling very frustrated at not being able to do even simple things like climb trees and mess about like that when I go out for walks with my family :( I had to abandon the weights I was doing, it was much too painful.

Maybe I should come off the raw food diet, god, I just want to eat some beef and cheese!

I think the being ill and working thing is another cause, I am finding it a real struggle to keep going, I still have a kidney infection, and the doctor said they can make you feel really low. He didn't try to give me antidepressants either which is good :)

[darketernal]

US well you know my personal stance on vegan type diets. I think they should be done for ethical reasons if one choses to do them, but they are most definately not ideal for optimal mental or physical health.

Given a choice, knowing what I know about nutritional science, the historical nutrition in humans, and my personal experience if I had to chose between a total vegan diet, or a total carnivore diet, I would live on animal flesh and animal products exclusively (fortunately we have the option to mix as I do need my broccoli). I would be stronger, have better bloodwork, more energy and a better mental well-being... and a much higher sex drive.

I think however your situation is a combination of stress, reduced exercise and diet, and not due to an isolated factor. ;)

[unusual_suspect]

US well you know my personal stance on vegan type diets. I think they should be done for ethical reasons if one choses to do them, but they are most definately not ideal for optimal mental or physical health.

Given a choice, knowing what I know about nutritional science, the historical nutrition in humans, and my personal experience if I had to chose between a total vegan diet, or a total carnivore diet, I would live on animal flesh and animal products exclusively (fortunately we have the option to mix as I do need my broccoli). I would be stronger, have better bloodwork, more energy and a better mental well-being... and a much higher sex drive.

I think however your situation is a combination of stress, reduced exercise and diet, and not due to an isolated factor. ;)

Maybe I should tell my fella that I need some meat :D

[supertzar]

how you feel upon your self

Read between the lines. LOL!

[izzy]

maybe you dont fancy your boyfriend any more .. that is why most people go off sex .. they love their other half but just dont have a physical burning desire for them any more .. and that is a tricky one .. anyway .. hope i am wrong :)

[unusual_suspect]

maybe you dont fancy your boyfriend any more .. that is why most people go off sex .. they love their other half but just dont have a physical burning desire for them any more .. and that is a tricky one .. anyway .. hope i am wrong :)

That is definitely not the case, I have been in that situation before, it is tricky indeed! :)

And before I was ill I was a lady with a healthy appetite for all of lifes pleasures.

It is mainly health problems, I think when you have been ill for quite a long time and are low on energy you body goes in to survival mode, there was another thread about channelling sexual energy.

Maybe my body is conserving my sexual energy and directing it where it needs to be healing itself, the sexual energy has definitely gone somewhere.

[izzy]

That is definitely not the case, I have been in that situation before, it is tricky indeed! :)

And before I was ill I was a lady with a healthy appetite for all of lifes pleasures.

It is mainly health problems, I think when you have been ill for quite a long time and are low on energy you body goes in to survival mode, there was another thread about channelling sexual energy.

Maybe my body is conserving my sexual energy and directing it where it needs to be healing itself, the sexual energy has definitely gone somewhere.

well you have answered your own question .. ill send you healing thoughts and hope you get well soon :)

[siriusc]

This might be a temporary symptom of an illness. I'd see a doctor and discuss it, I know there are many treatments out there so don't worry.

[quetzalcoatl]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

How bout try doing some sun bathing or 'cancer' bed tanning..?? sunshine / vit D might do something.. I think if you can somehow 'radiate' your thyroid (Adams apple) it might boost your libido.. ;)

[unusual_suspect]

How bout try doing some sun bathing or 'cancer' bed tanning..?? sunshine / vit D might do something.. I think if you can somehow 'radiate' your thyroid (Adams apple) it might boost your libido.. ;)

I know, I make a point of getting outside for a bit everyday, I hate being cooped up and sat in front of a PC for work!

[enga]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

Ditto....sums me up too. Especially wishing everyone would piss off.

[jojo]

sorry to hear about your troubles. Your job and ill health and feelings of being fat is probably a major cause :( I agree with what tracker wrote on the 1st page.

I always find sex very pleasurable after ive had a spliff. ;) quite a few women say this. it helps you to totally relax and at the same time just go for it. I find it intensify's the pleasure too.

[paolo]

I have a foreign body keeping a blockage open in my kidney
What foreign body is that? Depleted kidney energy and function will definitely wipe out your libido, as well as your general enthusiasm for life, also interfering with the heart centre.
There are a number of solutions that spring to mind, but this seems to be a central problem/cause, that needs to be dealt with. Pm if you want, us. I might have some suggestions

[metacomet]

Maybe I should tell my fella that I need some meat :D

You shouldn't have to tell him to provide that :confused: ;)

Are you sure it's you with the problem?

Exposure to a male with high testosterone increases the testosterone in a woman because he's constantly exposing her to it. A female has less than 1/8th the testosterone a male does, so it doesn't take much to give a boost in her system. The act of sex increases testosterone levels in both partners.

So if a man doesn't have alot of testosterone to begin with he's not going to have a high enough sex drive to maintain the females hormone level. She loses interest. This is a complicated thing and it happens in alot of 'relationships'. Man gets lazy, loses 'it' and the woman suffers.

For men, there are all kinds of tricks to increase our testosterone. No food or drink a couple hours before bed, eating healthy fats and lots of protein, increasing our 'good' cholesterol, and most importantly staying physically active.

Not sure if these would really help women because they play different genetic roles. They aren't the ones who needed to chase animals or kill other men *shrug*. Healthy levels of estrogen are all women have ever needed to attract high testosterone males, because we really take notice and appreciate the physiological signs of high estrogen in a female :p.

By the way, there is nothing physiologically indicative of high estrogen in stick-thin women... curves and substance are the healthiest in a female form. Likewise a stick thin man is not indicative of high testosterone. Nature wants us to be big!

[darketernal]

You shouldn't have to tell him to provide that :confused: ;)

Are you sure it's you with the problem?

Exposure to a male with high testosterone increases the testosterone in a woman because he's constantly exposing her to it. A female has less than 1/8th the testosterone a male does, so it doesn't take much to give a boost in her system. The act of sex increases testosterone levels in both partners.

So if a man doesn't have alot of testosterone to begin with he's not going to have a high enough sex drive to maintain the females hormone level. She loses interest. This is a complicated thing and it happens in alot of 'relationships'. Man gets lazy, loses 'it' and the woman suffers.

For men, there are all kinds of tricks to increase our testosterone. No food or drink a couple hours before bed, eating healthy fats and lots of protein, increasing our 'good' cholesterol, and most importantly staying physically active.

Not sure if these would really help women because they play different genetic roles. They aren't the ones who needed to chase animals or kill other men *shrug*. Healthy levels of estrogen are all women have ever needed to attract high testosterone males, because we really take notice and appreciate the physiological signs of high estrogen in a female :p.

By the way, there is nothing physiologically indicative of high estrogen in stick-thin women... curves and substance are the healthiest in a female form. Likewise a stick thin man is not indicative of high testosterone. Nature wants us to be big!

Not just good fats... dietary cholesterol has the highest impact on testosterone production. Excessive n-6 polyunsaturated fats reduce it... load n-3's and saturated fats.

Heavy weight training (lower reps with heavier weights have the most pronounced effect) has been documented to increase testosterone production signifigantly.

Defeciencies in zinc and magnesium will decrease it. Soy will decrease it. Alcohol decreases it.

Sex increases it also.

You are correct also, in that if he production is down, hers will be also as his partner. Men with high testosterone production increase the testosterone of women they are in physical contact with for any length of time. If his has lowered for any reason, hers will as well.

[unusual_suspect]

Ditto....sums me up too. Especially wishing everyone would piss off.


Well if you want to PM me and get it off yer chest feel free, sometimes it's good to let it all out.

sorry to hear about your troubles. Your job and ill health and feelings of being fat is probably a major cause :( I agree with what tracker wrote on the 1st page.

I always find sex very pleasurable after ive had a spliff. ;) quite a few women say this. it helps you to totally relax and at the same time just go for it. I find it intensify's the pleasure too.

Ahh, Jojo, I am so jealous of people who enjoy smoking pot :D Last time I smoked some pot was about 6 years ago, I felt like I had been spiked with acid, I had to go and hide under my duvet and even then I still didn't feel safe, I didn't get to sleep for hours either! I hear it is meant to be relaxing :confused:

Metacomet & darketernal,

My partners sex drive is fine, I am worried that if I don't sort it out he might bugger off.

He does have a pronounced feminine side, but I am actually a real tomboy, not a girly girl at all. I think I am feeling like this because I can't exercise at the moment.

Also there's the diet thing, my partner is veggie, tbh I am like darketernal, I can live quite happily on a ketosis based diet, what's more, I feel fantastic while I'm on it, my favourite foods are actually cheese and meat, I feel guilty eating them though.

Also I feel so low on energy because I shouldn't be back at work yet, so I am getting the doctor to sign me off again, bugger what my boss thinks, I need some rest, I have been fighting a kidney infection for months and have had a major operation etc. I'm going to stop feeling guilty for being lazy, irresponsible and feeling like I am letting people down, carrying on is not an option right now, circumstances are forcing me to stop.

[metacomet]

Well, only you know whether or not you're being aroused by male presence, unusual. I don't expect any woman will have a sex drive if she's not aroused by the presence of whatever male is at hand. If you feel it is due to lack of exercise and being bummed in life, start exercising however you can and keep an eye out for depressing moods or thoughts that want to slip into your day to day. You'll get better just from that.

In the meantime tell your man to start doing push ups in front of you or something (jk). But there has to be some way that you can gain an appetite for sex just by seeing a male be active. Don't go sneaking to any games or anything :p


Heavy weight training (lower reps with heavier weights have the most pronounced effect) has been documented to increase testosterone production signifigantly.

I heard the magic for test. increase was 5-8, 5 reps being 85% of a 1 rep max. Something heavy enough that 3 times is intense and the last 2 are extreme.

Defeciencies in zinc and magnesium will decrease it. Soy will decrease it. Alcohol decreases it.

Awesome call dark, taking zing magnesium supplements is a must. Soy and alcohol are combined all the time when people drink beer and eat snacks :p Don't you agree that's like a conspiracy against male T levels?

[darketernal]

Well, only you know whether or not you're being aroused by male presence, unusual. I don't expect any woman will have a sex drive if she's not aroused by the presence of whatever male is at hand. If you feel it is due to lack of exercise and being bummed in life, start exercising however you can and keep an eye out for depressing moods or thoughts that want to slip into your day to day. You'll get better just from that.

In the meantime tell your man to start doing push ups in front of you or something (jk). But there has to be some way that you can gain an appetite for sex just by seeing a male be active. Don't go sneaking to any games or anything :p



I heard the magic for test. increase was 5-8, 5 reps being 85% of a 1 rep max. Something heavy enough that 3 times is intense and the last 2 are extreme.


Awesome call dark, taking zing magnesium supplements is a must. Soy and alcohol are combined all the time when people drink beer and eat snacks :p Don't you agree that's like a conspiracy against male T levels?

Haha my ex-wife used to work out with me a couple times a week and she told me once she got wet watching me do a heavy set of deadlifts once.

If you want to boost your test levels in the gym, eat a steak before you workout and try 10 sets of 3 reps on your squat, bench and deadlift when you do them. Most definately sets of 6 reps or less have the best result for this.

Yes I do believe it is a conspiracy against male testosterone levels and sperm count.

[metacomet]

Haha my ex-wife used to work out with me a couple times a week and she told me once she got wet watching me do a heavy set of deadlifts once.

:p Haha oh my. I am almost embarassed to do them with any middle aged women in the gym. They seem to forget there are mirrors everywhere and staring is not a private act.

Do you still go to the gym alot or have you noticed that 90% of guys don't do deadlifts or squats? Talk about more conspiracy against the T levels...

[unusual_suspect]

Thanks dark eternal and metacomet,

The thing is with excersise is that I have a stent in relieving a blockage in my kidney which means I have to be very careful about what ecersise I do, I have have to knock the weights on the head as it was causing bleeding, pain and inflamation, so I thought I should leave the weights alone till they take the stent out, if it comes loose bthe urine cannot leave my kidney and I will become very poorly. I can go for long walks, that's about it.

I agreed to cut my hours with my boss, so I can now work a 3 or 4 day week depending on how I'm feeling, that has taken the pressure off. So seeing as I wasn't working today I went hill walking in in the forest for the afternoon before I picked my lad up from school. I feel loads better for it.

Here is a pic of what it's like literally less than a minutes walk from my house in nearly every direction.
http://www.davidicke.com/forum/album.php?albumid=257&pictureid=3821

Now I'm not exhausted from working when I'm feeling ill I can get out and ejoy it more :)

[metacomet]

I can go for long walks, that's about it.

Absolutely make sure ya do it then :)

I agreed to cut my hours with my boss, so I can now work a 3 or 4 day week depending on how I'm feeling, that has taken the pressure off. So seeing as I wasn't working today I went hill walking in in the forest for the afternoon before I picked my lad up from school. I feel loads better for it.


You should feel proud of yourself taking those steps to improving your life. Looks like you're onto a good start, wish you luck and all the momentum you need.

Here is a pic of what it's like literally less than a minutes walk from my house in nearly every direction.
http://www.davidicke.com/forum/album.php?albumid=257&pictureid=3821


You are very lucky, like me, to have beautiful nearby natural locations that can promote getting outside and enjoying the air. :) Let that summer sun promote the activity.

[unusual_suspect]

Absolutely make sure ya do it then :)


You should feel proud of yourself taking those steps to improving your life. Looks like you're onto a good start, wish you luck and all the momentum you need.


You are very lucky, like me, to have beautiful nearby natural locations that can promote getting outside and enjoying the air. :) Let that summer sun promote the activity.

Thanks metacomet, it's great living in a forest, I always wanted to live here when I was little, and now I do! where is it that you live?

I already feel more sexual :D I guess it was feeling stressed and tired.

[lisa b]

Maybe it is a low thyroid thing brought on by iodine deficiency? I use liquid kelp for iodine daily. My nails and hair is now so thick and I can sweat now and actually have a sex drive again.
http://www.dcnutrition.com/minerals/Detail.CFM?RecordNumber=73
SYMPTOMS of HYPOTHYROIDISM : Fatigue, Cold intolerance, Muscle aches & pains, Heavy or more frequent periods, Low sex drive, Brittle nails, Weight gain, Hair loss, Muscle cramps, Depression, Constipation, Elevated blood cholesterol, Puffy face, Dry skin and hair, Inability to concentrate, Poor memory, and Goiter.

http://www.alkalizeforhealth.net/Liodine.htm

Lisa

[rosix]

Hi, male here, I have had a sort of simliar period where it turned out that my medication and/or illness was affecting me far more than I realised! Thankfully my girl held out :)

in terms of sexual 'energy', spark and excitement, I would say to try and do something completely new, preferably new for both of you, and just go with it :) I find in a good relationship the worst that can happen is both have a fit of laughter, the best that can happen is an even stronger sexual connection

[mark1963]

I have found this to be more than beneficial. I buzz after doing a couple of tapping sessions and its quick. You cannot ignore your physical self whilst in this vibratory plane. EFT means emotional freedom technique. It's wonderful.

[godgoo]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :oWish I could give you some, because mine is a burden, :) have you tried anything like viagra? or any other afrodisiac? Maybe your whole natty test production is all out of wack from eating and drinking? Have you got any signs of gynecomastia? are the old boys OK?

[darketernal]

Wish I could give you some, because mine is a burden, :) have you tried anything like viagra? or any other afrodisiac? Maybe your whole natty test production is all out of wack from eating and drinking? Have you got any signs of gynecomastia? are the old boys OK?

Godgoo, US is a female.

[paolo]

After two very long heterosexual relationships, I now live on my own, dont want any relationships, and prefer wanking
Yes I am a wanker.
I can indulge my own darkest fantasies, without prostitute props, just my own imagination, and attain libidinal release
It may be a short term solution, but it's a solution
Masturbation is great at this present time, and releases all that guilt-ridden pent-up energy

[gorgeousgertie]

apparently having a pierced clit or clit hood intensifies female sexual pleasure and desire........

[cleft_asunder]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

Everything you just pointed out like how you hate your job and how you think you're fat is the cause of your loss of sex drive. Loving life = sex drive and health. Hating life = Low or no sex drive plus disease. Believe me because on those rare days when I love life, I do have a sex drive. But generally I'm bored of life, and therefore I never have a drive anymore.

[gorgeousgertie]

''bored with life''...........I'm saying nowt.

[godgoo]

Godgoo, US is a female.Women also produce testosterone, studies have shown that women can go on their change, not saying US is, just making a point. But when women go on their change they don't lose sexual desire, but if the females natty testosterone production is low then she will lose desire to have sex. Women respond to very small doses of testosterone. Maybe she could go and get some blood work done, at the Docs. To see what is going on.

[hawk]

US, have u tried taking a really good vitamin to help you with your energy problems? You could also be low on your B vitamin intake. It could be something to look into. ;)

[unusual_suspect]

Wish I could give you some, because mine is a burden, :) have you tried anything like viagra? or any other afrodisiac? Maybe your whole natty test production is all out of wack from eating and drinking? Have you got any signs of gynecomastia? are the old boys OK?

Actually, I have grown a big set of babylons and the old boys are nowhere to be seen :D

Seriously though, thanks for the input chaps. I think a lot of it had to do with having had an operation involving my waterworks, sepsis, chronic kideny infection, the sressful job etc, it had worn me down.

I get my stent removed in 3 days time and I will be able to clear up the infection, the work situation is on the up and I have been going hill running and doing weights and as soon as the stent is out I can go for it big time.

Having to be sedentry can do your head in if you are a naturally figety and heyperactive person.

[zero1]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

Many men pride themselves on their sex drive, either for the sake of pleasure in an off itself, or as an expression of their masculine potence - I understand why you would want to get it back.

However, other issues are compounding your problem; you have an illness and cannot exercise, whereas exercise is what I would have recommended to help you get your libido back in order.

Working out and building fitness, muscle and flexibility always lead the brain towards sexual consummation, increasing desires in that direction.

The only other thing I can recommend is the slow-burn of Love itself - you wish to be left alone and wish everyone would just piss off, but if you have a partner you love, a little bit of romance may rekindle that flame of desire for sex that you are (@ least on the psychological level) lacking at the moment.

Lastly, you are not alone; sex is made overly complex, glorified and built-up to unrealistic proportions by the foibles of a decadent, animalistic soceity -- try to rise above, realize that you are more than the urges and prompts of your libido, that what maketh the man is a lot more diverse than mere sex, and perhaps when you've found a happiness beyond the pleasure/pain paradigm, the desire to love physically and intimately once again shall return unbidden. :)

[jojo]

apparently having a pierced clit or clit hood intensifies female sexual pleasure and desire........

owch! do you speak from experience??

[gorgeousgertie]

no. I'm getting bored with people (men) telling me this though.It might do it might not, I'm not especially interested......many more ways to intensify this than with a piece of metal hehehe!
Just read this post after one such converation so thought I'd pass it on anyway!

[branjo]

Piercings do not enhance or intensify diddly squat, if you are a person who finds piercings erotic then it is your own "turn on" that makes it more intense, not the lump of metal on your bits.

[kassondra8]

Hiya US. :) You are here! I wrote in your astrology thread but you haven't been back, I thought you had disappeared, maybe sick or something... sadly, guess that wasn't too far off. :( Glad to see you are doing better though! Sorry about the sex problem.... some good sleep and a little time to yourself never hurts! Whatever you do, don't stress about it. That negative focus on the problem will only make it worse, at least in my experience. Cut yourself some slack, you've been dealing with a lot crap, what with the operation and stressful job and all!

[entrangermercenary]

Hi, this is embarrassing, but I've lost my sex drive.

I still fancy my partner, but I am ill and when I'm not working doing a job that I absolutely hate I just wish that everyone would piss off and leave me alone. Also I can't exercise because of my illness so I feel like all fat and I hate the way I look.

How can I get my sex drive back :o

Well u can lay off the rams in the forest to start with :p :) Working on that meet will send a pm monday nite to all concerned :)

[size_of_light]

owch! do you speak from experience??

C'mon jojo. I'll sponsor you.

I'll even hold your hand. ;)

[gorgeousgertie]

''no. I'm getting bored with people (men) telling me this though;;

''C'mon jojo. I'll sponsor you.

I'll even hold your hand''

Ah.....I see you get this too Jojo hehehe!!!