Overcoming Sex Fear

[sum_of_no_evil]

Ok, I need help and this seems to be a good place to go..

I'm in my 20's, I would happily say I'm quite an attractive guy but there's a problem I need to get past.

I have had plenty of sexual experiences in the past and have been told by past partners that I've done a good job in the bedroom :D

However, since splitting up with my long-term girlfriend about 3 years ago I have had none, zilch sexual encounters and no intimate contact with females at all..

Now I'm seeing someone, and the oppourtunity to have sex has come up 2 or 3 times and each time I have chickened out..I can't explain why. I find her attractive and get along great with her.

I got so used to not having sex over the years that now it seems like I'm doing it for the first time again. I need to break out of my comfort zone somehow and resume business as usual..

Anyone had any similar experiences or would like to give advise would be greatly appreciated :)

Peace

[rossus]

you know there's nothing to be scared of, but still u choose to be scared.
instead of choosing to be scared, you need to choose to not be.

it's your choice

[exclamatio]

u told her how u feel yet?

if not then start here :)

[unusual_suspect]

It's pretty normal to loose the urge for sex, are you genuinely attracted to this woman? If I found someone really attractive I dont think I could stop myself.

[markomac]

Chill out and try not to focus on it too much. Dont get drunk. Have an absinthe, it doubles as an aphrodisiact! Seriously. if im not in the mood, this always gets me into it.

its just a mental barrier that you have, i would tell her about it. some women enjoy helping guys out. She will appreciate the honesty as well.

Tell the truth mate. Once you get it out the way that one time, you'll be right back on the saddle again and raring to go!!

MM

[avaruus]

you are nor afraid of sex, you are afraid of rejektion.

[lhaull]

I'm terrible when I have been in love, I finished with a girlfriend once and I was out the game for about 4 years. Took me a further 8 to remove the last ties to her, lovely lovely girl, I still often think of her.
My advice is to relax, you are under no starters orders, no one is in a position to pressure you to do anything if you don't feel like it right now, then don't.
Sex can be so much more than mere physical gratification, apparently not for all but for some of us anyway it can be a wildly spiritual bonding.
If there is a deep connection shared when you couple, then perhaps it is that bond you are seeking and if it is not yet established with your new partner then maybe there in lies the hesitation you have to merely rut with someone.
Listen, go at your own pace. Walk your own road. And don't worry.
If you decide to just dive in and do it, then it will no doubt be fine, and all the fumblings which make new encounters only add to the joy.
Take your time.