chandrakavi
13-07-2007, 08:22 AM
These are parts from a book called "MORAL ARRASEMENT" by Marie-France Irigoyen, Editorial Paidos.
"The perverse names nothing, but suggestts it all.The victim, on its part, tries to understand, WHAT HAVE I DONE TO HIM? WHAT IS HE REPROACHING
me? Since nothing is clearly spoken , it could be anything. And this happens in the working place as well as in the family .
To reject dialogue is an astute way to make conflict worse, making things fall on the other. The victim is denied the right to be heard. The perverse is not interested in the other's version of the facts, and does not want to hear them.
Since direct verbal communication is denied to him, usually the victim manifests himself through writing. With the object of justifying the behavior of his agressor, the victim can come to the point of excusing himself for what he may have done conciously or unconciously.
So, the message of a perverse is voluntarily vague and imprecise and generates confution. Since his statemments do not respond to a logic reelation, he can maintain many contradictory speeches. He usually does not finish his phrases.
To sum up, one of the main objectives of the perverse person is to make the other unstable, this is done in the following way directing it to the victim::eek:
MAKE FUN OF HIS CONVICTIONS, OF HIS POLITICAL IDEAS AND TASTES.
STOP TALKING TO HIM
RIDICULE HIM IN PUBLIC:rolleyes:
OFFEND HIM BEFORE OTHERS
TO PREVENT HIM TO EXPRESS HIMSELF IN ANY WAY
MAKE UNPLEASANT ALLUSIONS NEVER CLEARING THIS UP
TO JUDGE HIS CAPABILITIES AND DECISIONS.
PERVERSION AND NARCICISMS.--
The notion or perversity implies, then, a strategy of using the other, and then a strategy to destroy the other ,without having guilty feelings whatsoever.
Just like in the personality of a Narscicist:
HE HAS A GRADIOSE IDEA OF HIS OWN IMPORTANCE
IS ABSORBED WITH FANTASIES OF UNLIMITED SUCCESS
CONSIDERS HIMSELF "SPECIAL" AND UNIQUE;
HE HAS A LIMITLESS NEED TO BE ADMIRED
THINKS PEOPLE OWE HIM EVERYTHING
EXPLOITS THE OTHER IN HIS INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.
LACKS EMPATHY
HAS ATTITUDES AND ARROGANT BEHAVIORS.
They do not do harm EX PROFESO, they do harm because they know no other way to exist. They too were hurt during their childhood, and they intend to survive in this way. This transfer of pain permits them to value themselves in detriment of all others.":(:confused::eek::mad:
"The perverse names nothing, but suggestts it all.The victim, on its part, tries to understand, WHAT HAVE I DONE TO HIM? WHAT IS HE REPROACHING
me? Since nothing is clearly spoken , it could be anything. And this happens in the working place as well as in the family .
To reject dialogue is an astute way to make conflict worse, making things fall on the other. The victim is denied the right to be heard. The perverse is not interested in the other's version of the facts, and does not want to hear them.
Since direct verbal communication is denied to him, usually the victim manifests himself through writing. With the object of justifying the behavior of his agressor, the victim can come to the point of excusing himself for what he may have done conciously or unconciously.
So, the message of a perverse is voluntarily vague and imprecise and generates confution. Since his statemments do not respond to a logic reelation, he can maintain many contradictory speeches. He usually does not finish his phrases.
To sum up, one of the main objectives of the perverse person is to make the other unstable, this is done in the following way directing it to the victim::eek:
MAKE FUN OF HIS CONVICTIONS, OF HIS POLITICAL IDEAS AND TASTES.
STOP TALKING TO HIM
RIDICULE HIM IN PUBLIC:rolleyes:
OFFEND HIM BEFORE OTHERS
TO PREVENT HIM TO EXPRESS HIMSELF IN ANY WAY
MAKE UNPLEASANT ALLUSIONS NEVER CLEARING THIS UP
TO JUDGE HIS CAPABILITIES AND DECISIONS.
PERVERSION AND NARCICISMS.--
The notion or perversity implies, then, a strategy of using the other, and then a strategy to destroy the other ,without having guilty feelings whatsoever.
Just like in the personality of a Narscicist:
HE HAS A GRADIOSE IDEA OF HIS OWN IMPORTANCE
IS ABSORBED WITH FANTASIES OF UNLIMITED SUCCESS
CONSIDERS HIMSELF "SPECIAL" AND UNIQUE;
HE HAS A LIMITLESS NEED TO BE ADMIRED
THINKS PEOPLE OWE HIM EVERYTHING
EXPLOITS THE OTHER IN HIS INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.
LACKS EMPATHY
HAS ATTITUDES AND ARROGANT BEHAVIORS.
They do not do harm EX PROFESO, they do harm because they know no other way to exist. They too were hurt during their childhood, and they intend to survive in this way. This transfer of pain permits them to value themselves in detriment of all others.":(:confused::eek::mad: