When We Try to Control Others It Is A Signpost...

[mara of the acoma]

"When we try to control others it is s signpost of our own dis-ease.'"

Over the years I have run into many people that would like to control me.

Some say my posts are too long, others tell me I have no right to exist at all.

Recently one person told me the type I was using was too large. (I'm 54..so eyesight is going downhill.)

Others tell me I do not use 'I' enough.

Then the opposite group writes me that tell me I am an egomaniac because my posts contain too many 'I's"

I am not bound by such prejudice that these people exhibit.

When they let the 'length' of a post or 'type' size I use disturb them it says it all about their state of inner peace...nil.

When we try to control others it is s signpost of our own dis-ease.

If I see a post I do not like...I just go onto the next one.

Whenever we get upset with others, it is good to look at things in perspective of the 3 laws that govern us.

All humans answer to:

Man made law

Natural law

Divine law (for those that believe in the spiritual realm**)

Always remember, if a person's actions do not violate any of these laws, then it becomes more of a 'subjective question' of violation.

When likes and dislikes of actions become subjective, then, making demands on others without a firm foundation in the laws bases our decision in our ego.

As such, the general rule is:

Persons should seek to please themselves with their actions first before they please the ego's of others.

Take Care,


V (Male)

Agnostic Freethinker
Practical Philosopher

Discuss.

[cheeb]

Agnostic freethinker,
Sitting on the fence a bit
Go the whole 52 yards,
And become a born again atheist'
and answer only to natures law,
see what you mean tho,
very good poste

POE

PTTP

[richmick]

You find alot of control freaks in top positions in most companies.

From my experiences talking to a few, i often find they have issues stemming from childhood.

Some have had unloving parents, or never known their parents or have been ignored and ridiculed at school because they were fat, or unattractive, or small or too tall, overlooked, Bullied. In short, felt unloved.

Control freaks need to feel the power over others, because it gives them a sense of balance, like a security blanket, it gives them self-worth, something they have lacked in childhood and it masks their anxiety.

I would say their motivation to control you is not a personal thing, but a necessary remedy to ease the anxiety most of them feel.

[peter19]

sometimes you yourself have to watch that you dont fall into controling person role playing or any for that matter lol. sometimes i think i do. controling people gives you a sense of power but also comes from a sense of lack of power.
is haveing a go at the controling people, controling?. thats what i mean it can be a tricky one.