soulmates=happily ever after?

[badasscass]

lately i've been contemplating this very subject in light of receiving a marriage proposal. :)
for some reason, the typical idea of marriage doesn't work for me. i believe that one's soulmate can be their mother, brother or friend. i believe that certain people come into your life for a reason, even if they're only involved in your life for a year. or they may be in your life for 10 years, does that mean that they're your soulmate and you should marry? if you marry someone and it doesn't work out does that mean that they're not your soulmate? or were they just second in line for this thing we call happily-ever-after?

the word soulmate sounds like a great concept. its the ideal that someone out there is holding the key to your heart and will make everything complete, all you have to do is find them! so us humans go on this quest to find 'the one' and often end up disappointed with the results in the long run. i'm not saying its not possible, but i think some people are blindsighted by this notion and its their life goal to attain it through marriage.

my situation is a bit unique. its a long story, i won't tell it unless someone really wants to hear it. :)
it feels right given our history, but i don't buy into the idea of marriage. i would be more happier if we united our souls by copulating at stonehenge or machu picchu than waste money on a big elaborate ceremony (he's cool with this btw).
i guess if you uphold certain religious/cultural beliefs then naturally you want to be married in accordance to those institutions. but i don't believe all of that is necessary to know that we're a union.
i don't care for a diamond ring, because there are stones out there that are more precious than a diamond. and i hate gold. this is just one of the things that symbolize marriage that won't symbolize 'my' marriage.
i don't know what i want, i just know that i don't go along with what's expected of me because its not me.



"soul mates: reality or torture device?" -sarah j parker as carrie bradshaw

[Anders Lindman]

My soulmate is me and MY universe. :D

[apekteina lordosis]

lately i've been contemplating this very subject in light of receiving a marriage proposal. :)
for some reason, the typical idea of marriage doesn't work for me. i believe that one's soulmate can be their mother, brother or friend. i believe that certain people come into your life for a reason, even if they're only involved in your life for a year. or they may be in your life for 10 years, does that mean that they're your soulmate and you should marry? if you marry someone and it doesn't work out does that mean that they're not your soulmate? or were they just second in line for this thing we call happily-ever-after?

the word soulmate sounds like a great concept. its the ideal that someone out there is holding the key to your heart and will make everything complete, all you have to do is find them! so us humans go on this quest to find 'the one' and often end up disappointed with the results in the long run. i'm not saying its not possible, but i think some people are blindsighted by this notion and its their life goal to attain it through marriage.

my situation is a bit unique. its a long story, i won't tell it unless someone really wants to hear it. :)
it feels right given our history, but i don't buy into the idea of marriage. i would be more happier if we united our souls by copulating at stonehenge or machu picchu than waste money on a big elaborate ceremony (he's cool with this btw).
i guess if you uphold certain religious/cultural beliefs then naturally you want to be married in accordance to those institutions. but i don't believe all of that is necessary to know that we're a union.
i don't care for a diamond ring, because there are stones out there that are more precious than a diamond. and i hate gold. this is just one of the things that symbolize marriage that won't symbolize 'my' marriage.
i don't know what i want, i just know that i don't go along with what's expected of me because its not me.



"soul mates: reality or torture device?" -sarah j parker as carrie bradshaw

congrats! :)

rewind going on 20years ago and a fresh faced apekteina did the down on one knee thing on a new years eve. thankfully though we never made it to the aisle and the 5years i spent engaged to that twatter has put me off getting serious with birds for life. but hey! never mind bitter old me! all the best to you and your fella.

[kiwimaj]

lately i've been contemplating this very subject in light of receiving a marriage proposal. :)
for some reason, the typical idea of marriage doesn't work for me. i believe that one's soulmate can be their mother, brother or friend. i believe that certain people come into your life for a reason, even if they're only involved in your life for a year. or they may be in your life for 10 years, does that mean that they're your soulmate and you should marry? if you marry someone and it doesn't work out does that mean that they're not your soulmate? or were they just second in line for this thing we call happily-ever-after?

the word soulmate sounds like a great concept. its the ideal that someone out there is holding the key to your heart and will make everything complete, all you have to do is find them! so us humans go on this quest to find 'the one' and often end up disappointed with the results in the long run. i'm not saying its not possible, but i think some people are blindsighted by this notion and its their life goal to attain it through marriage.

my situation is a bit unique. its a long story, i won't tell it unless someone really wants to hear it. :)
it feels right given our history, but i don't buy into the idea of marriage. i would be more happier if we united our souls by copulating at stonehenge or machu picchu than waste money on a big elaborate ceremony (he's cool with this btw).
i guess if you uphold certain religious/cultural beliefs then naturally you want to be married in accordance to those institutions. but i don't believe all of that is necessary to know that we're a union.
i don't care for a diamond ring, because there are stones out there that are more precious than a diamond. and i hate gold. this is just one of the things that symbolize marriage that won't symbolize 'my' marriage.
i don't know what i want, i just know that i don't go along with what's expected of me because its not me.



"soul mates: reality or torture device?" -sarah j parker as carrie bradshaw


Great post !! I can see EXACTLY where you r coming from. I too have pondered and studied the "soul mate" subject for YEARS.. I too thought if I met "the one" all in the garden would be rosy, this man would provide all that I needed to have a totally fullfilled life...true happiness is found through ANOTHER...I always felt that there was a difference between soul mate and twin souls...your twin was the one that way back when you and your other significant was one soul, divided into two, set out by the Creator, have your lives/experiences and stuff, then you would reunite, to make your way "back home". The twin was extremely different to a soul mate, the twin was your no.1, the one you are meant to be with, the one if you met in this physical lifetime would complete you and the reason for you coming together in this lifetime was to help others in your soul group to ascend, back to source, sort of like the king and queen of the group. Another reason for meeting your twin was to come together for the betterment of mankind, sort of like Jerry & Esther Hicks, Doreen Virtue and her partner, a couple that help others to.."awaken" a partnership that is based on a soul union, a very ascended union, one that is indeed mature, on a soul level...

I read that we have 144 members of our soul group, all of which we may not come into contact in any given lifetime...but a soul mate is far different from a twin soul. As I said, I use to really believe in the twin soul theory, not so sure now, to be honest. When I discovered that we do not need anyone else, that we are whole and complete, that we do not need another to complete us, my interest in the "one" concept sort of dissapated. I am not saying the twin concept is not true, it maybe so, and the other theory is that the purpose of a significant other is to balance the masculine/feminine within ourselves...that I do go with.

My view on marriage is this. Having been through a very rough marriage and subsequent divorce, at this point on my journey, marriage is completely unnecessary. If you are with someone that you are happy and content with, why get married? I feel humans do not need to get married at all, I think it stemmed from some religious ritual that someone invented. We all have different paths in this lifetime and to be tied to someone is a major distraction to our continuing journey. When you are completely happy and fullfilled on your own, then you are more likely to find a soul partner that you choose to be with, rather than be desperate for a partner, and subsequently the relationship breaks up...neediness is not condusive to finding an ideal partner.

Spot on also, why do we need material trinkets to symbolise any union...(gold, diamonds etc..) I too have no interest in these, I feel it is the elite that have made these things into something we try to aspire to acquiring, thus getting more and more into debt.

There are many different soul mates in each persons lifetime, your mother in this life could have been your lover in the past life, your husband in this life could have been your daughter in a past life...it's like being on stage in a play, we all have different roles in each lifetime, for each lessons to be learned..(or maybe not...;)..)

:)

[haukipesukone]

i don't buy into the idea of marriage. i would be more happier if we united our souls by copulating at stonehenge or machu picchu than waste money on a big elaborate ceremony

I feel the same way. If you want to make a life-long bond with your lover why resort to (expensive) rituals and customs devised by others decades before you were born? It's something that's between you two, so the ritual should be unique too and something that's part of you. Not something you copied from others.



I don't know much about soul mates. I hope I have one and I'll meet her.


A friend said his soulmate was some girl who lived somewhere in Africa in a tiny village. When she was 13 she was raped and murdered by soldiers. That's why he never met her.

[Anders Lindman]

Having the entire universe as a soulmate can seem selfish, but when I think about it, it is the opposite of selfish actually. If my soulmate is a single person, then that is perhaps not selfish but it is, paraphrasing Rush Limbaugh using the terms from a journalist: creepy, singular. :D

Having the entire universe as a soulmate is inclusive and we are then free from the creepy and singular soulmate. Since it is inclusive, a thing like our whole planet is then also a soulmate. Our soulmate Gaia. :)

[badasscass]

There are many different soul mates in each persons lifetime, your mother in this life could have been your lover in the past life, your husband in this life could have been your daughter in a past life...it's like being on stage in a play, we all have different roles in each lifetime, for each lessons to be learned..(or maybe not...;)..)

:)

exactly how i feel. i'm still absorbing your post so i'll reply to this more a bit later.

[seaweed]

Me and my hubby have been together for many years, and the first time we met, I knew we would end up married.

It was a really strange, almost mundane feeling, no beating hearts or violins, just this matter-of-fact: 'Oh, okay, so that's the man I'm going to marry.'

Exactly the same feeling as when I saw a UFO in broad daylight. But that's another story.

Our wedding hardly cost a bean. We got married in a registry office and had a little get together in a restaurant with just our closest friends and immediate family. We wanted to put all our money into getting a place together rather than wasting it on posh frocks, top hats etc.

I certainly don't think marriage is essential, but there are some legal implications if you don't, such as not being your partner's next of kin, which can throw up all sorts of problems.

So really, it just seemed easier to do the conventional thing rather than have to worry about what would happen if, for example, one of us was in hospital and the other was not allowed visit because of not being 'family'.

[spock]

agree to stay together untill such time as you don't want to.
and that you'll love each other till the day that you don't.

[netta]

I think your soul mates can be your worst enemies. This is because there are many types of soul mates. So even if you divorce someone they are still your soul mate. We are meant to learn and grow from each other.

[seeker1111]

lately i've been contemplating this very subject in light of receiving a marriage proposal. :)
for some reason, the typical idea of marriage doesn't work for me. i believe that one's soulmate can be their mother, brother or friend. i believe that certain people come into your life for a reason, even if they're only involved in your life for a year. or they may be in your life for 10 years, does that mean that they're your soulmate and you should marry? if you marry someone and it doesn't work out does that mean that they're not your soulmate? or were they just second in line for this thing we call happily-ever-after?

the word soulmate sounds like a great concept. its the ideal that someone out there is holding the key to your heart and will make everything complete, all you have to do is find them! so us humans go on this quest to find 'the one' and often end up disappointed with the results in the long run. i'm not saying its not possible, but i think some people are blindsighted by this notion and its their life goal to attain it through marriage.

my situation is a bit unique. its a long story, i won't tell it unless someone really wants to hear it. :)
it feels right given our history, but i don't buy into the idea of marriage. i would be more happier if we united our souls by copulating at stonehenge or machu picchu than waste money on a big elaborate ceremony (he's cool with this btw).
i guess if you uphold certain religious/cultural beliefs then naturally you want to be married in accordance to those institutions. but i don't believe all of that is necessary to know that we're a union.
i don't care for a diamond ring, because there are stones out there that are more precious than a diamond. and i hate gold. this is just one of the things that symbolize marriage that won't symbolize 'my' marriage.
i don't know what i want, i just know that i don't go along with what's expected of me because its not me.



"soul mates: reality or torture device?" -sarah j parker as carrie bradshaw

great post..i'm with ya.

besides i like sapphires much better than diamonds. :o:D

[astro zombie]

I think your soul mates can be your worst enemies. This is because there are many types of soul mates. So even if you divorce someone they are still your soul mate. We are meant to learn and grow from each other.

I agree with this totally.

I feel the same way. If you want to make a life-long bond with your lover why resort to (expensive) rituals and customs devised by others decades before you were born? It's something that's between you two, so the ritual should be unique too and something that's part of you. Not something you copied from others.

And this too!

[jayelowell]

marriage is just another way to say "You got to pay to be together!"
now you both pay!