Facebook woes, please help!!!

[ag3nt5mith]

Hey guys & gals.

I really need some advice, I can't talk to anyone at home about this, so I'm left with few options, I trust peoples opinions on this forum and would be greatful for any advice.

Facebook...

This started 3 days ago, I manage all the computers at home and others family members, when I was cleaning up my finances E-mails as she asked me to do so.

I saw 20-30 facebook E-mails and thought wow I didn't know she was into facebook this much, I have glanced at the site before, but thought they asked for far to much private info, and deleting an account can be very difficult or so I 've heard.

Seeing all these E-mail, I got curious so I went for a second closer look, when I got to the main page she had it set to remember the password and such, So I logged in the see what it's all about. Please bare in mind she has access to every thing of mine also.

When I figured out the interface and started learning abit about what goes on in facebook, I was shocked to say the least.

I found conversations with a male member, I know she knew him back in school or college but that is all I know, she has never spoken of him to me, ever.

The conversation seems to have started about 3 months ago, but I get the impression I missed the initial first meeting between my finance and this Rogue male as it starts as in mid flow of conversation.

The converstation becomes very loose, the male is pushing with questions designed to probe for personal info on me and our relationship.

This is when a big red flag popped up...

He knew when she was returning to work from a week off, this is a quote from the chat:-

John Doe said:-

9:35am Mar 26th
"Hay u,aint it your first day back 2day?????Well if it is just wanted 2 let u know that i'll b thinkin of u while i'm warm in bed,Seems abit big 4 just 1 person tho,LOL,Ave a good day!!!!!!"

Now I'm really worried, but it gets worse...

She tells him later on that she is thinking
about him. Here's the quote:-

My finance said:-

11:40pm Apr 26th
"thinkin ov u...."

John Doe replied:-

7:20am Apr 27th
"Hay i'm always thinkin of u maam!!!!Hang on how drunk were u??????"

My heart is sinking by the minute here, now I start going though the little installed games and thing,

He blew kisses at her and she returned them, 4 from him 3 from her, another one you can send pic presents, he sent her a love heart saying "Be mine" with
a song dedication "Every time this tune comes on i think of u" he said.

She sent others back including an emotional song from Evanescences My Immortal, Pictures that included a heart saying "Definitely maybe" and a message saying "one day ;)", OMG THIS IS MY FINANCES OF 6 YEARS. Another picture of a pair of KNICKER???????????

I'm now felling very sick and ill, gagging and breaking out into tears!!!!

I now at red alert, whistle & bells are going off in my head and the tear are welling up and my heart is aching like never before.

The final straw:-

He openly says that he loves her????????

And his last message to my finance:-

John Doe:-

11:47pm May 3rd
"Hay me and u need 2 hook up 4 a drink how about them apples???????"

We're now at the present moment, I have taken copies of the pages and saved them...

I know I have to confront her on this, I just can't let it go, I believe she has not physically cheated on me, but I feel emotionally devastated over this. We've been together for 6 year and very much in love, or so I thought.

This is my Fault????

Did I cause this????

I worship the ground she walks on, I love her with all my heart & soul, I'D DIE FOR HER????

Please help I beg you, Please help, I'm going out of my mind here.

Thank you for your time.

Namaste.

[thetonic]

Well.. You will have to confront this issue face to face. Its too late to do anything but. Don't go into the conversation in accusatory manner. Use open ended questions, let her do most of the talking...

Bottom line is . If you cant trust someone, or you dont trust someone, or her answers to the questions you have about jon doe do not sit well with your conscious, then it is time to move on my friend.

Life is too short to play these silly games with each other. Either you and she are committed to each other, or your not.

[dmt head]

Really sorry to hear that mate thats brutal. Think you have to confront her and tell her what you just posted there. There were lots of valid reasons why you went into her account so say that to her. It is pretty dodgy though and maybe she hasnt cheated on you physically but emotionally her heart doesnt seem to be with you 100%. Maybe she just likes the attention shes getting and you did say she didnt reply saying she loved him. My current g/f talks to a few mates, guy mates, on msn but she gets bored pretty quickly and it doesnt bother me and she doesnt hide things from me, that I know. You have to confront her I think and see what she has to say for herself, she might not be who you thoguht she was im sorry to say. And shes definately been hiding this from you maybe its not meant to be but you have to say what youve found. Good luck!

[klinker]

Very simple. Print off the mails and confront her with them. You have no choice in the matter.

This is your life so to know the truth is better than not knowing for sure and going nuts about it.

[ag3nt5mith]

Thank you all, I don't want to lose her.

But she must know herself that she's doing wrong, if she caught me doing this she would go mental...

My first impression was that I was over reacting to it all...

Things are starting to fit into place, she apologizes for tiny things like bumping into me or spilling a drink??? When I looked into why people do this the consensus is that the person is feeling guilt and over compensating...

When we first meet our sex life was great 3+ times a week, now its down to once every few weeks maybe.

IT MY BIRTHDAY IN 3 DAYS!!! Our anniversary is next month the 15th...

I feel like I'm dying inside...

[daveybpl]

Hey ag3nt5mith,

I was in a similar situation just over 2 years ago, the shit hit the fan big time.

Still not completely over it but this is what happens in life, it's happened to my male and female friends.

You'll get through it and be a stronger person for it.

Everything happens for a reason.

Good luck man

[dmt head]

Good point Davey, everything does happen for a reason, past failed relationships with me made me really depressed but im a much better stronger and wiser person for those experiences.

[adzboarder]

JOIN FACEBOOK

Just say you got the urge to join up as you have heard how great it is. Then make friends with her (in the site) and then ask her who this dude is.

BTW, if you have been engaged for 6 years, maybe you should have got her down the aisle by now?

All of this could be nothing, just mild flirtation. I guess it all depends if you trust her or not.

Hope it all sorts it self out mate, but dont go in all guns blazing when you ask about this dude.

[anoninnyc]

Very simple. Print off the mails and confront her with them. You have no choice in the matter.

This is your life so to know the truth is better than not knowing for sure and going nuts about it.

agree.

i am so sorry

[fantana]

Women lie, get over it.

The fact that he says he loves her openly without physically seeing her, duh, any self respecting woman is not going to want that. She is just messing with him, it's an ego trip.

Altho....

If she is having fun, why don't you support her? Is that not what ifinite love is? Isn't this guy she is flirting with and having sexual fantasies about part of infinite love and conciousness?

Are you not one and the same?

Yours in manliness,
Fantana

[galactic_stargazer]

I'm sorry to hear that.

I don't know tho, I might relate your story to her as something that your "friend" is going through, to gage her response.

[thetonic]

On a sidenote , getting "legally married" is one of the dumbest things you can do. You are contracting with the government, sacrificing rights and money, so they can tell you that you are bound together forever?

Its an absolute absurd idea. Marriage is not a piece of paper. Its a lifestyle. Its a commitment. Either you are committed to eachother or not. Because the government tells you are committed, does it really make it so?

[neutron flux]

ag3nt5mith, maybe after 6 years the relationship is a bit stagnant and she wants some excitement in her life so she turns to a virtual friend for this. Maybe you should do some exciting activities with her and throw in a little spontaneity to fill any void that might be existing in the relationship. She'll soon forget about whats-is-face.

Sometimes we get a little paranoid and maybe it's justified here, but IMO you should refrain from confrontation at this stage and remember what it was like at the beginning of the relationship and how it has evolved or descended and try and bring back a little magic.


Just my 2 pence.

[daveybpl]

BTW, if you have been engaged for 6 years, maybe you should have got her down the aisle by now?



Why would that make any difference?

[Ian2day]

My advice is do one of the following.

1. Get all paranoid. print off the emails. Then bug her and stalk her every move! Build up a huge dossier on what she does, when you're not there. Then wait for the time that you actually have evidence of it going past flirty emails.

Let it all get way too much for you. End up becoming obsessed and going round in circles looking for what you did wrong. Sit at home moping for 5 years about your failed relationship. Become ever more depressed. Until one day you just snap and go either postal and take your rage out on innocents that looked at you the wrong way in the pub. Or renew your passport and vanish off on a round the world trip never to return.

2. accept that the relationship has changed for whatever reason. Without laying blame at anyone's feet. Keep the chat logs a secret. Then do a few things out of the ordinary, to really break her routine up.

Take her on an unexpected adventure. Pack her bag, and pick her up one day. Give her a drink laced with sleeping tablets. Drive to a darkened forest and get her limp body laid out. In a freshly dug grave. Throw a bucket of cold iced water over her. Then point a bright torch in her face and get her to beg for.. Oh wait, sorry, wrong thread.

Pack her bag, pick her up and take her away. To somewhere exciting that she would like to go but would never get round to organising. Then if after a month of you doing all the unexpected things, she is still chatting to this bloke. Tell her it is over. If she asks why. Be honest and tell her that you found the secret chat logs and since then have tried to fill the gap in her life. However despite your best efforts, you are not what she wants from life.

3. Accept that infinite love means just that. Love without condition.

[daveybpl]

3. Accept that infinite love means just that. Love without condition.

That's a cop out.

Infite love may well be the only truth but the guy needs a bit more 5 sense advice at the moment.

I mean Icke loves Bush in the grand sceme of things but do you think Icke just accepts Bush's actions and puts in down to 'Infinite Love'? Of course he doesn't, he tries to expose his actions. That's not to say I'm implying our fellow poster should expose his girlfriend. Only He knows what's best.

The old infinte love card can be a bit like putting your head in sand methinks.

[majicdragon]

It's the seven year itch. Just get down there and scratch that itch man.

[kitchenmatt]

Dude,

As a lot of folk have already said, it may not be half as bad as it looks. I think the joining Facebook idea is a good one but at the very least you have to get this out in the open one way or another if only just to clear the air.

If it does turn out to be bad then:

You say that you cant live without her etc but the simple fact is that you totally can. You may not want to but you will get over it given time (massive cliche, sorry). I think this sort of thing happens to everyone at some point and it's just something that we all have to go through to learn and to realize that we don't really need anyone else. Of course it is nice to have a partner, someone to share your life with but remember there are a lot of plus points to being single as well. Ask any married man and they will likely tell you that they miss the single life - the freedom to do what you want all the time anytime is a really great thing to have.

You reminding me of myself a few years back. I've been through it badly twice and it has made me stronger and that's a solid fact.

Good luck!

[psychick]

good advice.

JOIN FACEBOOK

Just say you got the urge to join up as you have heard how great it is. Then make friends with her (in the site) and then ask her who this dude is.

BTW, if you have been engaged for 6 years, maybe you should have got her down the aisle by now?

All of this could be nothing, just mild flirtation. I guess it all depends if you trust her or not.

Hope it all sorts it self out mate, but dont go in all guns blazing when you ask about this dude.

[psychick]

woohoo
totally agree!

Mindset rules! :)

On a sidenote , getting "legally married" is one of the dumbest things you can do. You are contracting with the government, sacrificing rights and money, so they can tell you that you are bound together forever?

Its an absolute absurd idea. Marriage is not a piece of paper. Its a lifestyle. Its a commitment. Either you are committed to eachother or not. Because the government tells you are committed, does it really make it so?

[thetonic]

good advice.

which part of that is good advice?

[psychick]

which part of that is good advice?

This part -

Just say you got the urge to join up as you have heard how great it is. Then make friends with her (in the site) and then ask her who this dude is.

All of this could be nothing, just mild flirtation. I guess it all depends if you trust her or not.

Hope it all sorts it self out mate, but dont go in all guns blazing when you ask about this dude.

Whether he chooses to marry her after 6 yrs of engagement is his business... l can;t comment cos l don't do marriage anymore :p

[thetonic]

This part -

Just say you got the urge to join up as you have heard how great it is. Then make friends with her (in the site) and then ask her who this dude is.

All of this could be nothing, just mild flirtation. I guess it all depends if you trust her or not.

Hope it all sorts it self out mate, but dont go in all guns blazing when you ask about this dude.

Whether he chooses to marry her after 6 yrs of engagement is his business... l can;t comment cos l don't do marriage anymore :p

You mean join as an alias? More deception. Your only fueling your fire of your own demise.

Why would you do that with somebody you live with? They obviously use the same computer as well.

None of that was good advice imo aside from no guns blazing

Confront the reality, not teh facebook.

[dmessick]

Confront her on it and let her know how you feel about her. Communication is always the key.

[psychick]

where on earth, with all due respect, did you get that he was going to join as an alias?

lol

ufff... quick to judge yet you cannot read his sentence properly.


Please re-read and then instead of judging my view, which you have now totally spilt your ink all over, say something that l don't already know!!! :)

LOL do you actually life by the code of your signature quote? EVERYTHING is a state of mind....

You mean join as an alias? More deception. Your only fueling your fire of your own demise.

Why would you do that with somebody you live with? They obviously use the same computer as well.

None of that was good advice imo aside from no guns blazing

Confront the reality, not teh facebook.

[psychick]

Is this entire website based on tit for tat and people thinking they are smart asses by trying to catch another member out on their post?????

I mean, you come here for discussion to find the truth yet the entire journey you are saying FUCK THE TRUTH!

Don't fuck or play games with me cos my avatar is very deceiving and l absolutely cannot abide to be judged by someone whom thinks they are

1. better than me
2. don't know anything about me

If you judge me be prepared to eat the sh1t you deal out when i've thrown back your curve ball.

[zarah]

Gosh, you must be feeling really awful...poor thing.

Your fiancee could be just be looking for what she imagines is a little harmless fun, or she could be contemplating leaving you for this man..youre not gonna know anything until you sit down with her and talk to her.

If I were you, I'd keep the emails back until she starts telling you stuff...you know everything, she doesn't know how much you know..she could try to play it down....this way you'd know how deceitful she is which could be a good indicator for what's going on in her head

[thetonic]

Is this entire website based on tit for tat and people thinking they are smart asses by trying to catch another member out on their post?????

I mean, you come here for discussion to find the truth yet the entire journey you are saying FUCK THE TRUTH!

Don't fuck or play games with me cos my avatar is very deceiving and l absolutely cannot abide to be judged by someone whom thinks they are

1. better than me
2. don't know anything about me

If you judge me be prepared to eat the sh1t you deal out when i've thrown back your curve ball.

???:confused: I sense that somewhere along the lines ive offended you but i cant see for the life of me why... I never ever said FUCK THE TRUTH.

I'll be more careful next time:rolleyes:

I never assumed to know you... I was giving my opinions on the subject at hand, not attacking anyone personally. RE Read my statements before going half cock emotional breakdown on the internets

This is the statement i was quoting and commenting on :

Just say you got the urge to join up as you have heard how great it is. Then make friends with her (in the site) and then ask her who this dude is.

Its more deception. He should just cordialy confront her. Not play games

[kweli]

Hey guys & gals.

I really need some advice, I can't talk to anyone at home about this, so I'm left with few options, I trust peoples opinions on this forum and would be greatful for any advice.

Facebook...

This started 3 days ago, I manage all the computers at home and others family members, when I was cleaning up my finances E-mails as she asked me to do so.

I saw 20-30 facebook E-mails and thought wow I didn't know she was into facebook this much, I have glanced at the site before, but thought they asked for far to much private info, and deleting an account can be very difficult or so I 've heard.

Seeing all these E-mail, I got curious so I went for a second closer look, when I got to the main page she had it set to remember the password and such, So I logged in the see what it's all about. Please bare in mind she has access to every thing of mine also.

When I figured out the interface and started learning abit about what goes on in facebook, I was shocked to say the least.

I found conversations with a male member, I know she knew him back in school or college but that is all I know, she has never spoken of him to me, ever.

The conversation seems to have started about 3 months ago, but I get the impression I missed the initial first meeting between my finance and this Rogue male as it starts as in mid flow of conversation.

The converstation becomes very loose, the male is pushing with questions designed to probe for personal info on me and our relationship.

This is when a big red flag popped up...

He knew when she was returning to work from a week off, this is a quote from the chat:-

John Doe said:-

9:35am Mar 26th
"Hay u,aint it your first day back 2day?????Well if it is just wanted 2 let u know that i'll b thinkin of u while i'm warm in bed,Seems abit big 4 just 1 person tho,LOL,Ave a good day!!!!!!"

Now I'm really worried, but it gets worse...

She tells him later on that she is thinking
about him. Here's the quote:-

My finance said:-

11:40pm Apr 26th
"thinkin ov u...."

John Doe replied:-

7:20am Apr 27th
"Hay i'm always thinkin of u maam!!!!Hang on how drunk were u??????"

My heart is sinking by the minute here, now I start going though the little installed games and thing,

He blew kisses at her and she returned them, 4 from him 3 from her, another one you can send pic presents, he sent her a love heart saying "Be mine" with
a song dedication "Every time this tune comes on i think of u" he said.

She sent others back including an emotional song from Evanescences My Immortal, Pictures that included a heart saying "Definitely maybe" and a message saying "one day ;)", OMG THIS IS MY FINANCES OF 6 YEARS. Another picture of a pair of KNICKER???????????

I'm now felling very sick and ill, gagging and breaking out into tears!!!!

I now at red alert, whistle & bells are going off in my head and the tear are welling up and my heart is aching like never before.

The final straw:-

He openly says that he loves her????????

And his last message to my finance:-

John Doe:-

11:47pm May 3rd
"Hay me and u need 2 hook up 4 a drink how about them apples???????"

We're now at the present moment, I have taken copies of the pages and saved them...

I know I have to confront her on this, I just can't let it go, I believe she has not physically cheated on me, but I feel emotionally devastated over this. We've been together for 6 year and very much in love, or so I thought.

This is my Fault????

Did I cause this????

I worship the ground she walks on, I love her with all my heart & soul, I'D DIE FOR HER????

Please help I beg you, Please help, I'm going out of my mind here.

Thank you for your time.

Namaste.

Please listen to this song, it may just help. YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

[ag3nt5mith]

Thanks again to all who have posted, I really do appreciate it.

Well I've calm down now, and I took her for a walk in the country side, we held hands, walked & Talked.

I reminded her of all the good things we have before I told her I knew about this guy.

When I did, it was all done very calmly, we sat on a bench by the lake and just talked it out for a good few hours.

She answered all my question honestly, she hide nothing from me, she became very upset at the fact that I was in pain over this.

The guy is an old school friend, and she told me a lot about him and how she knew him.

He doesn't live locally anymore, and from what I hear this guy can't take no for an answer.

She told me that he had been pestering her for a while and that it freaked her out a bit, she hasn't logged in since he started really pushing his agenda.

She agrees that it did look bad but that she was 100% committed to me, she didn't even bat an eye lid over me going into her account.

It seems in my rush to find evidence of infidelity, I completely missed parts where she talks about how romantic it was when I proposed to her, and how her heart still skips a beat when she sees me.

I trust her fully, I feel like a fool for thinking the way I did. It doesn't say much for me that I was so threatened by a distant lonely computer geek (No offense intended).

I feel closer to her now more than ever, if we can talk through difficult things like this without it degenerating into a shouting match, we can get through anything.

You never know how much you'll miss something until you think your losing it.

I feel so much better for getting it off my chest, I slept like a new born baby last night. We both agreed to unplug from the net for a while, some times it takes over your life, and I would rather spend my time with a flesh and blood human over an internet friend.

I will be joining facebook and supporting my partner anyway I can, I should have done it ages ago really.

It just goes to show honesty & truth will always prevail, if your ever in a situation like this just talk to your partner about whats bothering you and go from there.

Thanks again for helping me at this difficult time, who know what I'd have done if I hadn't come here and shared the problem.

This is truly a great community.

Namaste.

[raptor]

LISTEN !!! sort her out before she makes you look like a cock ! whether she is just having a light hearted flirt with this guy or not, she is cheating on you ! guys make me sick when you let these girls walk all over them yet they dont sort them out, you just get all sensitive and say shit like " but i really love her " ! seriously just approach her and say your not taking any of this shit and she either stops chattin to this chimp or she's finished ! im not trying to act tough and be a bastard but you need to remember that your happiness is just as important as hers and if she thinks what she is doing is acceptable then you should find someone who does appreciate you ;)

[intruder]

Thank you all, I don't want to lose her.

But she must know herself that she's doing wrong, if she caught me doing this she would go mental...

My first impression was that I was over reacting to it all...

Things are starting to fit into place, she apologizes for tiny things like bumping into me or spilling a drink??? When I looked into why people do this the consensus is that the person is feeling guilt and over compensating...

When we first meet our sex life was great 3+ times a week, now its down to once every few weeks maybe.

IT MY BIRTHDAY IN 3 DAYS!!! Our anniversary is next month the 15th...

I feel like I'm dying inside...

If she caught you you claim that she would "go mental"? that's another reason to dump her.

[intruder]

you're both playing a game called "love". it's time for men to be men!! step up to the plate, end it now, and spare yourself the divorce later! I'm not being negative, just helping you to face the facts.

DELETE!!!

[intruder]

you DO know that you make women SICK when you "worship the ground they walk on" don't you!?! c'mon!! DUDE!!!! DELETE!!!!!!!!!

[intruder]

DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE!DELETE! you'll thank me later!! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE! DELETE!

[intruder]

Aw, WHAT was I thinking!?! I'll grab my 12 string guitar and you'll sing!:p with a cheesy flashback to the 80's and that timeless (gag) ah, HIT from REO Speedwagon!!

I cant fight this feeling any longer
And yet I'm still afraid to let it flow
What started out as friendship, has grown stronger
I only wish I had the strength to let it show

I tell myself that I cant hold out forever
I said there is no reason for my fear
Cause I feel so secure when were together
You give my life direction
You make everything so clear

And even as I wander
I'm keeping you in sight
You're a candle in the window
On a cold, dark winters night
And I'm getting closer than I ever thought I might

And I cant fight this feeling anymore
Ive forgotten what I started fighting for
Its time to bring this ship into the shore
And throw away the oars, forever

Cause I cant fight this feeling anymore
Ive forgotten what I started fighting for
And if I have to crawl upon the floor
Come crashing through your door
Baby, I cant fight this feeling anymore

My life has been such a whirlwind since I saw you
Ive been running round in circles in my mind
And it always seems that I'm following you, girl
Cause you take me to the places that alone I'd never find

And even as I wander I'm keeping you in sight
You're a candle in the window on a cold, dark winters night
And I'm getting closer than I ever thought I might

And I cant fight this feeling anymore
Ive forgotten what I started fighting for
Its time to bring this ship into the shore
And throw away the oars, forever

Cause I cant fight this feeling anymore
Ive forgotten what I started fighting for
And if I have to crawl upon the floor
Come crushing through your door
Baby, I cant fight this feeling anymore.


if that doesn't work, we'll change the lyrics!!

I can't fight this facebook any longer
yet still I'm afraid to download
what started out as flirtation, has grown stronger
I'll take you to the laptop and push my code

etc...

sorry mate, it's all in the game!!

[pillowtalk]

Isn’t face book for 12 - 14 year old girls ??.
I am ignorant to the situation, but this is the impression i held.

Women lie, get over it.


If she is having fun, why don't you support her? Is that not what ifinite love is? Isn't this guy she is flirting with and having sexual fantasies about part of infinite love and conciousness?

Are you not one and the same?

Yours in manliness,
Fantana

Agreed with Fantana, as long as she is getting off with out getting physical with this guy, hey WTF.
That’s like my wife coming home and finding me having a wank over some girl on girl Porn, then getting freaked out & jealous.

She doesen’t BTW, she will often watch with me & have a crank also, LOLZ............

But then we are pornoholics.

PT

[razed1]

judging by the replies on this thread, im shaking my head in disgust

white ppl have been so conditioned to let their women walk all over them, so trained to be little yuppies,

the fact that your fiance is writing this guy and telling him that shes thinking of him, and sending him love songs, doesnt seem like someone who is faithful

if she was serious about you, agentsmith, she wouldve told this guy about you and told him that shes not interested in this guy, and she shouldve told YOU about this guy aloong time ago

but she didnt she went behind your back, and now you wanna MARRY HER??

who knows 5 years from now, some cool dude mailman knocks on the door and shes feeling 'bored' again......

[psychick]

Thanks again to all who have posted, I really do appreciate it.

Well I've calm down now, and I took her for a walk in the country side, we held hands, walked & Talked.

I reminded her of all the good things we have before I told her I knew about this guy.

When I did, it was all done very calmly, we sat on a bench by the lake and just talked it out for a good few hours.

She answered all my question honestly, she hide nothing from me, she became very upset at the fact that I was in pain over this.

The guy is an old school friend, and she told me a lot about him and how she knew him.

He doesn't live locally anymore, and from what I hear this guy can't take no for an answer.

She told me that he had been pestering her for a while and that it freaked her out a bit, she hasn't logged in since he started really pushing his agenda.

She agrees that it did look bad but that she was 100% committed to me, she didn't even bat an eye lid over me going into her account.

It seems in my rush to find evidence of infidelity, I completely missed parts where she talks about how romantic it was when I proposed to her, and how her heart still skips a beat when she sees me.

I trust her fully, I feel like a fool for thinking the way I did. It doesn't say much for me that I was so threatened by a distant lonely computer geek (No offense intended).

I feel closer to her now more than ever, if we can talk through difficult things like this without it degenerating into a shouting match, we can get through anything.

You never know how much you'll miss something until you think your losing it.

I feel so much better for getting it off my chest, I slept like a new born baby last night. We both agreed to unplug from the net for a while, some times it takes over your life, and I would rather spend my time with a flesh and blood human over an internet friend.

I will be joining facebook and supporting my partner anyway I can, I should have done it ages ago really.

It just goes to show honesty & truth will always prevail, if your ever in a situation like this just talk to your partner about whats bothering you and go from there.

Thanks again for helping me at this difficult time, who know what I'd have done if I hadn't come here and shared the problem.

This is truly a great community.

Namaste.


awwwwwww i'm so happy for you!!! That's wonderful news! It's great to be reassured and to feel stronger love.

Many blessings to you both :)

[psychick]

Hey thetonic

This post wasn't actually aimed at you, l was just venting about the site in general!

Please accept my apology as l should have really stated that l was generalizing.

Peace, Psychick

???:confused: I sense that somewhere along the lines ive offended you but i cant see for the life of me why... I never ever said FUCK THE TRUTH.

I'll be more careful next time:rolleyes:

I never assumed to know you... I was giving my opinions on the subject at hand, not attacking anyone personally. RE Read my statements before going half cock emotional breakdown on the internets

This is the statement i was quoting and commenting on :



Its more deception. He should just cordialy confront her. Not play games

[kweli]

you DO know that you make women SICK when you "worship the ground they walk on" don't you!?! c'mon!! DUDE!!!! DELETE!!!!!!!!!

You're a wise one Intruder. ;)

[adzboarder]

Nice one ag3nt5mith, glad it's all sorted.

:)

[ownedtbh]

happy to read that you have sorted it out i like happy endings :D

[davelove]

i just had to tell you. i found my ex doing the same thing. only she had 15 irish guys on the go!!! lol. dont i feel special!!! well done and thanks for the happy ending..