Gaslighting

[kallista]

Hi all. I'd like to discuss a problem i have had for the last three years. I have been Gaslighted (Gaslighting - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) by a woman who I have had no relationship other than a professional one. She has done nothing that I can prove. It has taking the form of stalking in public and on the telephone, always from call boxes. In the beginning, I thought she fancied me, so i asked her out on a very casual date which she refused quite unpleasantly. I just thought she was an idiot and forgot about it but she then literally devoted the next three years of her life harrassing me. I tried to reason with her, to no avail, infact it made her worse. She has now started making friends with my associates, then informing them that I have been stalking her for the past three years, some of whom believe her, she is a very attractive woman and superficially charming. Consequently I have lost friends and my reputation.
At it's worst she was calling me three times a day and I would see her everyday even though we live the opposite side of a large city. She is obsessed with literally destroying me for no good reason. Unfortunately I am now obsessed with her too, but not in a good way. I have never hated anyone in my life and I am really having problems controlling my anger levels toward this person. I just cannot understand why someone would go to this trouble over what was really nothing in the start.
Any ideas?