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oneofmany
10-03-2007, 03:22 AM
If you were asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and you had to pay $400 for a dress and shoes just to be part of it? :confused: Im not female and don't see the attraction to these things at all, but I think it a bit rich, having your bridesmaids help fund the wedding, so any advice would be great.:)
i am all i am
10-03-2007, 03:47 AM
If you were asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and you had to pay $400 for a dress and shoes just to be part of it? :confused: Im not female and don't see the attraction to these things at all, but I think it a bit rich, having your bridesmaids help fund the wedding, so any advice would be great.:)
This is obviously taking place in a church.
Not being christian, nor believing in a christian ritual (marriage), I would personally say thanks but no thanks.
As for the money aspect, I agree that it should be up to the bride and groom to fund their own wedding and not expect someone else to. It's like they're saying, "come and be an investor in my wedding".
With LOVE.
oneofmany
10-03-2007, 03:49 AM
This is obviously taking place in a church.
Not being christian, nor believing in a christian ritual (marriage), I would personally say thanks but no thanks.
As for the money aspect, I agree that it should be up to the bride and groom to fund their own wedding and not expect someone else to. It's like they're saying, "come and be an investor in my wedding".
With LOVE.It's in a grove, not a church but could this be worse? :D
oneofmany
10-03-2007, 03:53 AM
Not being christian, nor believing in a christian ritual (marriage)
With LOVE.If only more people knew what the rituals actually signify, this archaic form of enslavement would dissapear. (happily not married)
i am all i am
10-03-2007, 03:56 AM
It's in a grove, not a church but could this be worse? :D
If it was the Bohemian Grove it would probably be considered worse.
Whether it is in a grove or church it is still a christian ritual.
The institution of marraige. Is this like a 'mental' institution that you are 'committed' to ?
With LOVE.
Anders Lindman
10-03-2007, 04:26 AM
If you were asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and you had to pay $400 for a dress and shoes just to be part of it? :confused: Im not female and don't see the attraction to these things at all, but I think it a bit rich, having your bridesmaids help fund the wedding, so any advice would be great.:)
I'm not female either, but I would probably have said hell no to that in a firm but not rude way. But I think it depends on the person. Some people would surely love to be a bridesmaid. And that is fine. Integrity means that we are free as individuals to not blindly follow some collective group-think created by high priests.
graflok
10-03-2007, 04:47 AM
I would tell them the truth, whatever that is for you.
graflok
tinmenace
10-03-2007, 05:09 AM
Yeah, that's a little much to expect of anybody. Doesn't matter what their financial situation is. If the bride wants a fancy wedding with $400 bridesmaid dresses, she should have to pay for them. After all, it is her special special day, and the focus will be on her and how beautiful she supposedly looks, creating her special special memories....
She wants it? She pays for it. End of story.
neondestiny
10-03-2007, 05:22 AM
I agree with tinmenace.
I am also absolutely flabbergasted as to how much people will spend on a freakin' wedding, some people spend up to a home deposit just to tell the world they are in love sheesh! I don't see the point of spending all that cash on one day.
Hubby and I got married last year after being together (living in sin te he) for 8 years.
Our wedding all up cost a whopping total of $800 which included the celebrant, cake flowers dresses etc the whole kit and kaboodle.
Neither of us are religious, so we had a celebrant, the only reason we finally got married was because we felt it would be nice to have a bit of paper for the kids and so I could legally have his last name.
Some people get my goat that think by having that bit of paper is going to have their whole world change for the better.
Sorry to rant, but this really gets to me (rant over now) good luck to your friends for their wedding.
jimijams
10-03-2007, 08:12 AM
I would tell them the truth, whatever that is for you.
graflok
Sound advice graflok.:)
harpalchemist
10-03-2007, 12:17 PM
Sorry,why is this question on here?This aint some agony aunt site.Whats the best way to cook trout? Not today baby.
Sorry,why is this question on here?This aint some agony aunt site.Whats the best way to cook trout? Not today baby.
hmmmm!! I thought we were all friends here. What is wrong with asking a friends advice? If you think it is too trivial, just ignore it.
limelady
10-03-2007, 01:38 PM
Sorry,why is this question on here?This aint some agony aunt site.Whats the best way to cook trout? Not today baby.
Life in the matrix is VERY ritualistic, so what could be more on-topic than discussing the ancient/traditional ritual of marriage?
If one is going to be stickler for tradition, then traditionally, the bridesmaid is responsible for the cost of her own gown and shoes, however, common-sense normally wins over when a bride has such expensive taste. In such circumstances she will usually either offer to pay for the bridesmaids gowns herself, or at least share the cost.
Not being into marriage myself - in fact not being a traditional gal in any sense of the word these days, I'd (nicely) tell the bride to take a hike if she expected me to pay $400, and personally I feel its a bit of a cheek to expect a bridesmaid to fork out so much.
:D
tinmenace
10-03-2007, 04:22 PM
Just grumpy grumpy....maybe he/she posted before they had their morning coffee....?:rolleyes:
oneofmany
10-03-2007, 11:29 PM
Sorry,why is this question on here?This aint some agony aunt site.Whats the best way to cook trout? Not today baby.This just happens to be general chat mate, if you don't like the question, don't answer it